Goodbye Grumblings

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What I learned from my trans daughter

About a year-and-a-half ago, Thing One told Husband and me she was transgender. How she came to understand that and how she found the courage to come out to us and to the world is her story to tell. The story I can tell is about how I handled this big change to our family […]

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What I learned from a 14-year blanket

Some 14 years ago, I started crocheting a blanket for Thing Two. We chose the pattern and colours together. (To my relief, she assures me that she still likes the colours.) Sometime over the past few years, she told me she wasn’t moving out until I finished the blanket. We laughed. But one never knows […]

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Why am I grumbling about new and improved vision?

I could read anything if I held it right up close to my eye.

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I forgot to pack Grumblings

Sometimes a place just feels right the moment you walk in. Sometimes that place is a comfortable and welcoming coffee shop, where the delicious aroma of coffee and baked goods enfolds you. That’s how it was when Dad and I opened the door to Roy Lane coffee shop in Sioux Lookout, Ontario. It’s located in […]

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I can see clearly(er) now

For 51 years, my left eye has been useful for motion, colour and shape–and not much else. I’ve been grateful for it, and quick to point out that it’s better than no sight at all when doctors dismissed it, saying I had “one good eye.” But yesterday things changed. I went for cataract surgery and […]

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Best ever cure for grumbling

Stories. Stories are the best cure! Find yourself wanting to snap at your spouse? Stop talking and go read a book. You can’t argue when you’re reading. (And you can’t hear anyone being annoying if you read hard enough.) Having trouble talking about your feelings? Start with, “Once upon a time . . . .” […]

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How to stop fear of writing from derailing you

I recently took a big step towards fulfilling a writing dream, only to have fear launch a stealth attack that temporarily sidetracked me. Pull up a screen and I’ll tell you about it—and how I’m getting past it. On June 19 I completed the 100-day book program by submitting the last piece of my first […]

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10 good things about joining a writing program

I recently did something both wonderful and scary: I joined a writing program. Sounds tame, maybe. But to me it’s closer to terrifying than boring. Why? Because I’m working hard, putting my heart and energy into finishing a book. I’m giving it my best now-or-never effort. And after all of this, what if I fail? […]

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Thanks for the cold, Ottawa winter

March 5, 2018 Last week I took the garbage out in boots, jeans, a t-shirt and mittens. It was around minus seven degrees Celsius, cold enough that I‘d normally want a coat, hat and scarf. It felt wonderful. I took my time carrying the recycling bin to the curb. I looked at the fresh snow, […]

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A lesson from Grandma: keep an elastic heart

When Grandma died in November, family and close friends came together informally to mourn. We ended up in a big circle in my cousin’s home, looking out on Grandma’s beloved Rideau River. We shared stories, memories and sorrow. People spoke of how much they learned from her, how much they loved her, how much they’d […]

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